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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2022 12:15:05 GMT -5
Why does someone not being friends with you make you feel terrible? It is a common experience that each person has some people they regard as friends, and some they don't. A person refusing being friends with you doesn't say anything negative about you. It simply means that you don't match together. If the fate somehow forced you together, you would likely found it to be a really stressful for both of you to talk to each other, holding polar opposite views on many things.
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Post by mayhemicdestrvctor on Mar 11, 2022 13:10:18 GMT -5
because i feel lonely and my best friend from school cannot visit me cuz his mom doesntr want him to do that becaiuse of the virus and and it really hurts because if he was my friend then maybe we could even be playing video games together and he just says he diesnt want to be my friend and it feels terrible when they say that i just cant take it any more because i tried to find new friends many times and they were only cruel to me or said no and some people said they would be my friend but they disappeared after some time and never talked to me again and they just ignore me and it feels just terrible and i dont know how i can deal with this and i cant talk to my parents because theyre still depressed because ofm y brothger and they get stressed very quickly so i cant talk to them because they get mad quickly and they almost never know what they should tell me so thta i feel better and then i feel even worse
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Post by joe-ilya on Mar 11, 2022 17:00:55 GMT -5
You have horrible parents, they shouldn't be neglecting their only son for over 2 years because the other one died, I don't think you can get any help through your parents if they get mad at you for asking for support for that long, it actually sounds like they have developed drinking problems that they are trying to hide from you since your brother died. I think you need to call a local youth counseling helpline on your own, so you can get the support that you need.
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Post by mayhemicdestrvctor on Mar 11, 2022 17:32:32 GMT -5
i dont know what this is and how to do that sorry and why do you think they drink alcohol i mean some times my dad was drinking beer with me that was summer 2019 2018 but no summers before that because i was a little bit too young for that but i dont think they drink more than the usual stuff 2021 and 2020 not that often because thats where they were kind of depressed
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Post by joe-ilya on Mar 11, 2022 18:07:48 GMT -5
People with drinking problems have them because they want to detach themselves from a sad reality, and they get upset when someone tries to bring them back to reality so that they make a change to fix themselves; that's why they get mad when you ask for help, they're in their happy intoxicated world, and when it's time to be responsible and take action they try to push you away and get upset when you persist. I understand that losing your brother is awful and can never be forgotten, but being emotionally unstable for over 2 years is too long when YOUR LIFE is on the line, what are you going to do? Get some help from a youth counseling? Or are you going to keep trying to get through to your emotionally unstable parents? Who knows how long it'll take until your parents start supporting you, it could be another 2 years, and by then you'll be 18 still living with your emotionally dysfunctional parents, and it'll likely be too late to make a change then.
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Post by mayhemicdestrvctor on Mar 11, 2022 18:47:59 GMT -5
what if u only say thgis advice so i start to like u so u can start to bully me with gifs again , and i dont know how to get a counselor i cant speak proper german i think they will not be able to understand me , my mother is better at talking to those
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Post by Gokuma on Mar 11, 2022 19:04:08 GMT -5
Joe is really trying to help you with some decent advice. If you can find some good counseling, that may be best. He's definitely not setting you up to bully later.
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Post by joe-ilya on Mar 11, 2022 19:13:43 GMT -5
Dude, fuck off, I'm just trying to help and you're being a douche about it. Anyways, give a call to a local youth counseling group, it's only a Google search away to get a number, it's supposed to be easy and simple, so that young people such as you can easily get the help that they need. Every first world country such as Germany uses English as a secondary language, you're aren't going to get deserted by people who's job is to help people like you just because you don't know German, don't be stupid and make the right decision, don't let your parents and your insecurities get in your way of living a healthy life.
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Post by Gokuma on Mar 11, 2022 19:18:39 GMT -5
Geez, I'm just trying to relieve his paranoia. I wasn't being sarcastic if that's what you thought. This is serious stuff involving his wellbeing.
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Post by joe-ilya on Mar 11, 2022 19:20:13 GMT -5
I was talking to him, you ninja'd me, sorry about that.
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Post by Gokuma on Mar 11, 2022 19:20:55 GMT -5
No problem. Simple misunderstanding.
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Post by 40oz on Mar 11, 2022 19:36:08 GMT -5
joe-ilya Nope, not in the emotional support thread. If you're not emotionally available to support someone then you can leave this thread alone. 3 days.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 12, 2022 11:41:48 GMT -5
mayhemicdestrvctor hey dude, it's ya boy: the unfunny troll pintolinh0 here. It seems to be kinda risky interacting with you as the ounce man is always watching your flanks, but i'm gonna try something here. Note to the boss: this is a genuine self-improvement post directed at mayhemic - so please, keep your sweaty fingers out of the ban button (at least for now, XOXO). Mayhemic, you have to understand that is tough to take your story to the heart as this is the internet. Still, i'm gonna believe you and share some tips that might be helpful. First off, believe or not a lot of people that interacted with you since you start posting here actually gave you some really good life advices. But due to your age it might be difficult for you to grasp or even to give those advices a try. For it seems that your constant repetition about the same issues reflect that you are in search of an easy answer or a unfailable formula. Neither of those exists, i'm afraid. So sit back and relax. This is a vigilantdoomer-esque text wall. Starting now, my first tip to you is: * Have patience. Changing for the better, improving your condition or whatever you wanna call it - demands hard work, self reflection and consistency. Thus, it takes some time to reap the benefits and you can often find yourself back at the starting point. Don't give up. * One issue at a time. Don't try to work out on multiple problems that you perceive in yourself (or in your surroundings) at the same time. Put the issues on a hierarchy and start with the lowest. And keep in mind that you can't control a lot of things - and that means that some stuff will not work out the way you intended to. People will turn their back on you, friends will abandon you and family members may neglect you (for either being your own fault or theirs). That's life. Let it be. Keep the focus on not becoming one of them. * Have goals in life. From the most humble to the most ambitious ones, have goals and work hard to accomplish them. There's nothing wrong in doing goofy things without having a proper meaning for it, but don't let this become the norm. * Keep your expectations low. Avoid expecting and/or counting too much on others, but always be available to provide help when needed. * Eat well, sleep well and avoid numbing yourself all the time. Don't neglect those things, they made a huge impact on your life, your humour and your energy. Regarding drinks/drugs: i recall reading that you drank some beer, some time ago - i suggest avoiding this things for now. You are 16, right? A couple of years from now you can go to the liquor store and buy the drink you want. So wait a little bit. I'm saying this to you as a heavy smoker and as someone who drinks a can of beer everyday. Still, i didn't start consuming or experimenting this stuff until i was 19 years old and i have never drank to the point of getting wasted. Also don't allow others peer pressuring you into consuming this things. I ended a 5 year long friendship when i was 14, because the dumbass decided to drink his dad whiskey and after getting drunk tried to force me to drink that shit too. Long story short: i lost the fistfight and a friend, but not my conscious. Stand your ground when needed, do not fall prey to petty emotional appeals. * Don't waste too much time on trivial things. Your time is precious, do not let it go to waste. Keep most of your attention invested on productive things. Create your own path of studying, for example. I think getting in touch with the traditions, myths and literature from your former country could be a good start (stuff written in your native language). Learning an instrument is also pretty good. These things will help immensely in keeping your mind sharp and occupied. Playing video games is fun and all but it won't provide good nutrients for your brain. Making Doom maps is a extraordinary way to let your creativity go wild. But do not let this hobby become a chore, or a job or just the best thing you can do - do not reduce your self worth to these small things. * Have a sense of humour. Taking every aspect of life too serious is a great way to lead one self into vices and disillusions. That doesn't necessarily mean that you need to shut up and accept every morbid joke that are spilled out there. Be vocal if you want, yes. But also learn to tolerate the individuals behind the said jokes. Look, just be self aware. You listen to a lot of bands that had made their entire career into making offensive religious critiques and shock value. I'm a christian and i enjoy a lot of those bands too. I also enjoy toilet humour filled with sexual innuendos. I don't have a problem with that. But maybe these kind of humour are not for you. That's fine. Still, try a little harder to figure out if someone is just making a joke (even if you find it to be in poor taste) or really offending you. That's it for today. You can start doing all those things right now and independently from your parents. They are dealing with some heavy stuff and you can't do much to help. Just be a good son. But don't let their overprotection, nor their flaws get in your way. Pain and suffering are tough things to deal with, everyone has their time to overcome those and i hope some of these tips will help you out. I can't speak for everyone that poke some fun at you, but speaking for myself: i do care for your well being and i think that all those other users that just triggered you with some dumb gifs also cares. I don't see anyone around here trying to harm you. Just some goofyballs being goofy and i hope you join the club too some day. God bless.
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Post by mayhemicdestrvctor on Mar 12, 2022 13:40:18 GMT -5
what is an ounce man and i do a lot of creative things because i make a lot of wads and i draw sometimes but i dont know what my goals are sorry. and why did the others start to think that it is funny to try to trigger some one with the gifs and i still dont know what to do because io am scared that they still secretly hate me and they talk to me in the emotional support thread so they can suddenly start to send gif files to me because they know that i hate them because they remind me of the first times where some one was trying to bully me with the gifs , and i want to try to keep making more doom maps and stuff all the time so i dont feel numbed myself , and i am not sure what i have to do be a very good son to them because they were like sometimes telling me to make like dishes or that my mother wanted me to help her cook something or clean something and they dont do that any more so i have no idea what i can do to make them feel better because they dont care if i try to , and i asked them what i have to do to make them feel more happy again so that everything is much better and they didnt rlly say anything clear that i can do and i am still confused about what they said and i just dont know but i really want to make it so that they can feel better and i am a little bit too lite because i just dont have appetite to eat anything often and if you cared very much about my wellbeing why did u never try to be friends so i can know that u dont hate me instead of trying to trigger with me , i dont get it
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Post by Deleted on Mar 12, 2022 19:05:09 GMT -5
Ounce man is a man made of exactly forty ounces, no more, no less. Just kidding, it's the one and only 40oz. i do a lot of creative things because i make a lot of wads and i draw sometimes but i dont know what my goals are sorry. Good to know that you draw as well, it's an excellent creative output. Try expanding to reading books, practicing music, etc. Doing stuff out of the internet, per se. I'm not saying for you to leave this place or stoping playing Doom, no. Just do more things in real life than on a computer screen. and why did the others start to think that it is funny to try to trigger some one with the gifs and i still dont know what to do You'll understand it one day. Trust me. For now, i suggest just ignoring me and others when we are partaking on these things. Take this opportunity to build up some tolerance. It will help you. and i am not sure what i have to do be a very good son to them because they were like sometimes telling me to make like dishes or that my mother wanted me to help her cook something or clean something and they dont do that any more so i have no idea what i can do to make them feel better because they dont care if i try to I meant "be a good son" in a general sense. You know: staying out of trouble the best you can or not doing stupid things just to call for their attention or not being rude to them, etc. Do what you can and don't worry too much about it. i am a little bit too lite because i just dont have appetite to eat anything often Try having a snack every three hours, nothing too fat tho. And eat well in general; some fruits, vegetables, meat, milk, etc. Avoid junk food the best you can. Not saying, don't eat it. Just don't make your every meal consisted of junk food. if you cared very much about my wellbeing why did u never try to be friends so i can know that u dont hate me instead of trying to trigger with me , i dont get it I care for your well being in the sense that i don't want you to be in a bad place or doing something prejudicial to yourself. It's a vague statement, yes. That is the nature of the expression. It's not anything in particular, but being well in a general sense. Of course, while i mean it - i can't control that. Sometimes we have to endure some hardships. Hence, the suggestions i'm giving to you. Friends are a complicated subject tho. I don't believe in having friends on an online environment. You can have some pleasant company, sure. I had the luck of knowing some very nice people in online gaming, people that i've kept in contact for years. But they are not my friends. Friends are hard to find. But fortunately, real friends are also hard to lose. It might be weird for you to grasp this. But, for example, other users that i've interacted with are not my friends. If any of them add me as "friend" in their list, they would still not be my friend. This is too superficial to be considered friendship. On the internet, friend it's just an easy term to describe people that you have some affinity with. I don't think we can be friends, per se. But we can interact with each other in a pleasant or unpleasant manner. That's enought, isn't it? Nurture good friendships in real life and don't take online interactions too seriously. They are not meant to. That is for now mayhemic. As a final suggestion; try to read and re-read not only the advises that myself and others gave to you. But also, advises that were given to other users that posted here as welll. You will find good stuff. Have patience. As i said before, there's no easy answer.
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Post by mayhemicdestrvctor on Mar 13, 2022 3:34:53 GMT -5
ok ill try
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Post by Deathclaw886 on Mar 18, 2022 20:10:33 GMT -5
I seriously thought this was a Joke thread. ive been in several Discord servers that had joke threads titled "Emotional support thread" and it was a bunch of people making up problems.
(wait, if i make a post am i supposed to contribute to it?)
uh... i cant think of anything, sorry.
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Post by mayhemicdestrvctor on Mar 19, 2022 18:29:46 GMT -5
ok no problem , and i asked my dad if i can make a therapiy and he doesnt want that because he sais all therapists are greedy and they dont care aobut the peoples health they are glad when some one comes to them but onl ybecause it means they can make more money out of them , and they ll suggest lots of therapies and some are expensive only because he get smoney from them and he doesnt care about the mental health of people , and my dad says if i would go there they would damage me and make my dad pay lots of psycho medicine and therapies and it would make me even more mentally unhealthy , so i dont know what to do now
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Post by joe-ilya on Mar 19, 2022 19:06:51 GMT -5
Fine, since your dad doesn't trust therapists, counselors, or any other workers related to psychological aid; then tell your parents you feel lonely and want to talk to them instead.
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Post by mayhemicdestrvctor on Mar 19, 2022 19:14:23 GMT -5
okay im going to try it
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Post by mayhemicdestrvctor on Mar 26, 2022 2:04:15 GMT -5
how can i make myself stop feeling terrible , whe3n some one unfriended me , i was trying to not think this person and i was playing vdeo games and listening to music all the time but the thoughts come back all the time and i think my methods of distracting are not good enough and i need to make the thoughts go away because when they come i feel really terrible and it just really hurts very much and it gives me a really terrible feeling and i really cant take it any more because i dont understand why he has unfriended me and i just feel really terrible , i felt terrible yesterday because of it but today its even worse , so whatare the best methods to make bad feeling like this go away forever can someone please tell me
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Post by joe-ilya on Mar 26, 2022 7:35:12 GMT -5
Talk to your parents.
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Post by mayhemicdestrvctor on Mar 26, 2022 16:19:38 GMT -5
they were asleep
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Post by mayhemicdestrvctor on Mar 27, 2022 20:11:46 GMT -5
how can i help my self with a very strong and very fast method to destroy terrible feelings when my parents are asleep and my friends dont respond and talk to me , and when i am unable to find new friends for my self , if i wake up my parents they get angry and they will not listen to me , so how can i destroy the terrible feelings really fast and quickly for my self can some one please tell me that once he has read this post until the end , i cant take it any more it gets just even worse all the time so i need a very good method to do that please. i dont have beer or alcohol that i can drink. its night so i cant go in a store
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Post by mayhemicdestrvctor on Mar 27, 2022 20:14:51 GMT -5
instantly or something that takes only a few minutes to destroy all bad feelings i have
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