How often do you go out?

Well I work full time hours and have to wake up before dawn so I never go out on weekdays (or technically I'm always out I guess while at work), but every 3 or 4 weekends I'll go hang with friends or whatnot.

Doomkid Hit me up on one of those weekends. These days I get 1 or 2 Saturdays a month where the missus works overnight. We can have sesh and play some f’n Doom or have a jam even.

I've observed a lot of people that seem to have a regular weekend morning routine of getting dressed, going to a Starbucks or local diner to sit down, have a coffee, maybe a bagel, and just read the newspaper, a book, or browse the internet on their laptop for a few hours before carrying on the rest of the day. Something about that lifestyle is incredibly appealing to me. It's not the same when I wake up, get dressed, brew my own tea, cook my own breakfast, and sit at my computer desk at home.

Sometimes my wife and I will go out to get breakfast at the local diner and we talk about our plans for the week and what we want to do, and the day is always super productive and fun after that. Ordering breakfast every morning gets expensive, and I'm not a coffee drinker either. For some reason these types of conversations don't happen naturally when you wake up and don't feel the motivation for doing anything. I think the change of scenery is extremely important.

I don't really want to spend the money on breakfast if I don't need it. So I can't really justify the reason for going to a place that only exists to provide a service I'm not interested in. I don't want to be questioned. I just want to relax and contemplate my plans for the day or the week. I thought this would come naturally when I moved out of my parents house and into my own home, but it just doesn't work.

I'm still chasing this feeling, I just don't know how to get to it without emptying my bank accounts on it. It's not the food or the coffee I need. It's just... i don't know what it is exactly. It's just not what I have.

Does work count?

I think because I live in an urban area, things are a bit different. But lately, it seems more and more people are anti-social. Life seemed a bit different when I was growing up. I was in a relationship for about 5 years, before that, I was in one for 3 years, and before that a bunch of shorter ones. I had a group of friends I've known since high school. Eventually a lot of my friends moved away or gotten married, so they don't hang out much. After my relationship, it seemed like I was taken into a time warp, because things seem much different. In regards to dating, I think those dumb apps are where you're going to find people. I've been pretty successful on it. But I still think its a stupid dynamic; there's just something off-putting about it. I miss the days when you can go out to a bar or nightclub to meet people. Now those places are mostly reserved for couples, and groups of couples.

When I was in high school in the late 90s, you were considered to be a loser if you had to go online to meet a girl. Funny how things change.

More women were noticeable on the internet when Myspace came around. Prior to that, it was always assumed women on the internet were all 500 lb whales, or old men pretending to be women in chat rooms.