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Post by 40oz on May 4, 2018 9:45:48 GMT -5
There's a person I used to work with. She's very kind and friendly and sweet. She's a genuinely good person, and she means well, but sometimes she just won't shut the fuck up.
I don't mind listening to someone talk, I really don't. But sometimes you have to welcome people into the opportunity to talk about things that are going on in their lives. Usually this comes in the form of a question like "What's up?" or "How are things going?" or "What are you up to?"
This person I used to work with will overhear conversations between other people, and step in to share a story that is better because it effects herself in a personal way, sometimes cutting someone else off before they are finished with a story their telling that the listeners have been engaged in. I don't think this person realizes she's doing it. I don't know if she had a lot of friends growing up to keep her in check with this kind of stuff. We can excuse it a lot of the time, but when it's literally every time she is present in the room, it's gotta be stopped.
I wouldn't want to hurt her feelings, because she hasn't done anything that she understands to be offensive. But sometimes she forgets that she has the floor in a conversation for much longer than anyone else. She needs to be told to shut the fuck up once in a while and listen for a moment so other people can speak too. But there's literally no way to do it that isn't going to sound rude to her.
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Post by Deleted on May 4, 2018 9:49:22 GMT -5
I'd tell her to stop, lol maybe you could tell her to wait her turn idk
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Post by joe-ilya on May 4, 2018 13:33:22 GMT -5
Use her own tactics and see how she feels about it.
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Post by Deleted on May 4, 2018 14:04:34 GMT -5
I wouldn't want to hurt her feelings, There's your problem, just say "shut up" and don't give a shit.
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Post by BIG DICK NIGGA on May 4, 2018 14:30:30 GMT -5
Use her own tactics and see how she feels about it. seconded Don't go too far on the malicious side of it, though.
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Post by deathevokation on May 4, 2018 15:17:19 GMT -5
You could always be polite and say "I would prefer it if you would be quiet". Kinda like this guy.
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Post by Deleted on May 4, 2018 17:29:15 GMT -5
This can be a big problem and as you said, what really sucks is that's it's very hard to blame people for being like that since they probably don't quite realize what they are doing and why is it bad. I have a relative who can speak on the phone for hours and hours, so every time we talk I get so uncomfortable trying to somehow direct the conversation towards the end. And just like you I have no idea how to even approach talking to them about this. I'm not sure they would even understand what the problem is. It's like some people just lack that self-awareness and at some point it's too late to change them. Perhaps the only thing we can do is to make sure our kids don't become like this.
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Post by 40oz on May 4, 2018 19:10:44 GMT -5
Lol you guys are the worst This can be a big problem and as you said, what really sucks is that's it's very hard to blame people for being like that since they probably don't quite realize what they are doing and why is it bad. I have a relative who can speak on the phone for hours and hours, so every time we talk I get so uncomfortable trying to somehow direct the conversation towards the end. And just like you I have no idea how to even approach talking to them about this. I'm not sure they would even understand what the problem is. It's like some people just lack that self-awareness and at some point it's too late to change them. Perhaps the only thing we can do is to make sure our kids don't become like this. I can't believe that theres just a point in ones life where they never really know for sure that theyre fucking annoying.
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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2018 13:24:28 GMT -5
There's a person I used to work with. She's very kind and friendly and sweet. She's a genuinely good person, and she means well, but sometimes she just won't shut the fuck up. I don't mind listening to someone talk, I really don't. But sometimes you have to welcome people into the opportunity to talk about things that are going on in their lives. Usually this comes in the form of a question like "What's up?" or "How are things going?" or "What are you up to?" This person I used to work with will overhear conversations between other people, and step in to share a story that is better because it effects herself in a personal way, sometimes cutting someone else off before they are finished with a story their telling that the listeners have been engaged in. I don't think this person realizes she's doing it. I don't know if she had a lot of friends growing up to keep her in check with this kind of stuff. We can excuse it a lot of the time, but when it's literally every time she is present in the room, it's gotta be stopped. I wouldn't want to hurt her feelings, because she hasn't done anything that she understands to be offensive. But sometimes she forgets that she has the floor in a conversation for much longer than anyone else. She needs to be told to shut the fuck up once in a while and listen for a moment so other people can speak too. But there's literally no way to do it that isn't going to sound rude to her. You can tell people to shut the fuck up sometimes with body language, and giving certain looks. I think being visibly annoyed is a good way of saying it, without actually saying it. I think if that fails, then actually saying it might have to be in order. I always tell people, "I'm actually in the middle of doing something", or that I need "to check my e-mail". Or I say, "Hey, can you give me like 20 minutes, I need to do something.", then never bring up the conversation after that.
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Post by dn on May 5, 2018 13:32:04 GMT -5
>baked beans >all day, every day >hold that shit in >anus like Bruce Lee >10th dan black belt sphincter >can shit toblerones on command, such is your level of control >wait for bitch to talk past the two minute mark >long, low baritone fart >12 seconds + >34 seconds + >give her the eye >64 seconds + >shit-eating grin and eyebrow waggle >musical spike, flourish >round of applause >she will never, ever speak to you again
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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2018 14:07:13 GMT -5
Whilst DN's greentext solution is legendary and the others are bold, brash and "problem solving", I'd suggest that the best path would be acceptance of her.
It sucks, yes, but it's usually the method of least conflict that runs better.
... Or you could roundabout tell her, pull her aside sometime and explain that some people have complaining about her, dismiss questions of who by saying something like "you know me, I wouldn't tell on someone", calmly explain how she could avoid adding to those complaints because you're her friend and you don't hearing these complaints.
It's risky, but that's the thrill of lying.
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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2018 16:59:34 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2018 21:35:07 GMT -5
You could always be polite and say "I would prefer it if you would be quiet". Kinda like this guy. THIS IS WHAT ITS LIKE WHEN CRINGE COLLIIIIIIIDES
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