Acting strange because of girls
Jul 15, 2018 11:18:39 GMT -5
Post by Phml on Jul 15, 2018 11:18:39 GMT -5
I've never met a woman who felt that strongly about her political leanings, nor about mine. Take them away from the crowd, and they will not care one bit.
Kontra Kommando, I think you're doing yourself a disservice with your expressed perspective. Most women yearn for a man that excites them but that they also can trust and look up to. Be unabashedly frank with your opinions and you might be surprised at the positive reactions you get: "rightwing" views being politically incorrect, it tickles their desire to break conventions, to be special and have someone special.
Provided you approach it the right way! One mistake I see guys do over and over, they're verbally assaulting the girl they're talking to. That girl is not your enemy, nor is she the representative of her entire gender. If she's talking to you at all, she's interested in hearing what you have to say. She wants to be seduced, she wants to have her beliefs challenged; but not in the ruthless way us men can argue with each other, in a way that affirms your own strength while also validating her efforts.
You mention women bringing up political points on their own. I guarantee you what they want from you is the opposite stance. Only it has to be the right way.
Her- "You're not a conservative, are you?"
You- "I am. So what?" <- Striking out right off the bat. You define yourself as part of a group, big turnoff, close it with passive agressiveness, huge turnoff. You've got to open doors for her, not close them.
You- "Political parties of either side are stupid. I'm above that" <- Perhaps you've got an in for some time, perhaps you can make her feel you're interesting, but that's a weasely position and that type of attitude puts a shelf life on the relationship from the start.
You- "You've uncovered me. I am shameless. Don't you worry, when you come over I'll put the MAGA hats in the closet." <- That's the type of answer she's looking for. Because this is never about YOU, or politics. It's about HER. You make her feel like she's front and center. You validate her thoughts before affirming your positions.
A simple "That's fair." before segueing into the exact same 4 line political rant can be the difference between her captivated by your words and her utterly repulsed. Always, always, always validate her feelings; without backing down from your own opinions, which you then express without being confrontational.
This is starting to get way too long, and I'm not pretending to be a Don Juan. That's the thing: this shit works. You don't need to earn 6 figures, to be 6 feet tall, to drive fancy cars or to tell elaborate lies. You just need to be a man of conviction and present said convictions the right way.
Seriously man, you owe it to yourself to switch gears. Women are wonderful. Forget the outside world exists, make it all about you and her. That's all she wants. No matter who "she" is!
Kontra Kommando, I think you're doing yourself a disservice with your expressed perspective. Most women yearn for a man that excites them but that they also can trust and look up to. Be unabashedly frank with your opinions and you might be surprised at the positive reactions you get: "rightwing" views being politically incorrect, it tickles their desire to break conventions, to be special and have someone special.
Provided you approach it the right way! One mistake I see guys do over and over, they're verbally assaulting the girl they're talking to. That girl is not your enemy, nor is she the representative of her entire gender. If she's talking to you at all, she's interested in hearing what you have to say. She wants to be seduced, she wants to have her beliefs challenged; but not in the ruthless way us men can argue with each other, in a way that affirms your own strength while also validating her efforts.
You mention women bringing up political points on their own. I guarantee you what they want from you is the opposite stance. Only it has to be the right way.
Her- "You're not a conservative, are you?"
You- "I am. So what?" <- Striking out right off the bat. You define yourself as part of a group, big turnoff, close it with passive agressiveness, huge turnoff. You've got to open doors for her, not close them.
You- "Political parties of either side are stupid. I'm above that" <- Perhaps you've got an in for some time, perhaps you can make her feel you're interesting, but that's a weasely position and that type of attitude puts a shelf life on the relationship from the start.
You- "You've uncovered me. I am shameless. Don't you worry, when you come over I'll put the MAGA hats in the closet." <- That's the type of answer she's looking for. Because this is never about YOU, or politics. It's about HER. You make her feel like she's front and center. You validate her thoughts before affirming your positions.
A simple "That's fair." before segueing into the exact same 4 line political rant can be the difference between her captivated by your words and her utterly repulsed. Always, always, always validate her feelings; without backing down from your own opinions, which you then express without being confrontational.
This is starting to get way too long, and I'm not pretending to be a Don Juan. That's the thing: this shit works. You don't need to earn 6 figures, to be 6 feet tall, to drive fancy cars or to tell elaborate lies. You just need to be a man of conviction and present said convictions the right way.
Seriously man, you owe it to yourself to switch gears. Women are wonderful. Forget the outside world exists, make it all about you and her. That's all she wants. No matter who "she" is!