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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2018 17:07:27 GMT -5
I can act rather irrational when the opposite sex is involved. Sometimes when I think that an attractive girl is looking at me, I might start doing or saying weird things in an attempt to look interesting I guess. It's like I'm not being myself at these moments. Also, I'm definitely much nicer with girls: I choose my words more carefully, I look for ways I can help them, I trust them easily, etc, etc. Is it unfair that I put women above men when it comes to communication and a lot of other things? Like today I learned about a female old school video game composer and got rather excited since her music seemed quite good, but then I found out that it's actually a man and at that moment I felt some disappointment. It's like the composer being male made me less interested in the songs. Stupid, right? Am I a sexist pig? Do I need to change as soon as possible or is this something that gradually gets better as you get more experience dealing with women? Or are we all just horny dumb men and we should accept that that's how we'll always be?
Do you also find yourself adjusting your behavior a lot when dealing with girls (or boys if that's who you're into)? If so, how do you feel about that? Nowadays everyone talks about how we should treat everyone equally and stuff. Do you think equal treatment is actually possible?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2018 17:20:23 GMT -5
Treating a man equally to a woman, when it comes to interpersonal relationships is bullshit. A heterosexual male will naturally treat women differently. Moreover, you will overtime hone your abilities to get the best reactions from them.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2018 17:32:23 GMT -5
I think what you're feeling is normal but you need to master the art of talking to these girls in a way that's most comfortable for you.
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Post by BattleKorbi on Jul 2, 2018 18:05:35 GMT -5
"Doomur Boruds incul thrud whun?"Jokes aside, not really though. I've learned that men and women, and by extension, boys and girls aren't that different. Like, differences may be polar but they aren't exactly "from Venus or from Mars". Is it possible to treat both equally? I say, yes, even if you are straight. Heck, my asexual ass can testify to that. I said numerous times that I am a friend to both sexes. But it's not like "lets treat gals as dudes" or vice versa, just, finding the middle ground, like, it's gonna sound progressive as heck, but, ya know, human beings. Like, sure, not every human being is the same, that's the beauty of it, but putting priority over another because of a too common variable, that's kinda shitty. Tbh, the only time I would "change" my style for a girl is around the same time I would "change" my style for a boy, so to say. If you've got something cool, if you are cool, if you are decent, if you are special (in a good way), I might try and impress ya but be an asshole, no matter what sex, I'm gonna treat ya the same. Ya might ask if this causes any friction with other people. Yes. Mostly with girls, because, conservative society and all, but once people get used to me it's only natural for me to exist, and friction lowers to ground zero levels. Sources: Pretty much my life ever since I ID myself as an ace. Even today.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2018 18:06:55 GMT -5
There's no fucken art involved in talking to women. They are human and it's quite natural to talk them... they're not going to bite you, unless you want them to. @memfis what you're describing could be chalked up to shyness and not reading the signs due to lack of experience, all perfectly normal behaviour.
About your situation with the musical composer, that's quite a natural feeling too. There is such as a thing as masculine and feminine energy, and you will associate things with either one of them subconsciously. Check out languages that feature masculine and feminine terminology. Those cultures have no problem with the definition of a man and a woman, or behaviour as being sexist. This is something the anglos struggle with to the point of trying to legislate against such thinking or speaking.
I had something not like the M/F thing but similar from that Sam Smith song The Only One. I used to hear it on the radio and really dug it until I saw that Sam was a white english dude and not the soulful black crooner I had imagined in my mind. It removed my joy from the song because now I see it as inauthentic. It's not like this dude is not allowed to sing like a black person, it's that his singing is so far removed from his actual voice that I would consider it phony and not from the heart. I get a similar feeling from songs when you don't know the lyrics so you have your own version, and when you find out the real lyrics the song loses its shine in a way.
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Post by Justince on Jul 2, 2018 18:42:41 GMT -5
Lol this is cute, it's like fifth grade all over again.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2018 19:09:59 GMT -5
There's no fucken art involved in talking to women. They are human and it's quite natural to talk them... they're not going to bite you, unless you want them to. @memfis what you're describing could be chalked up to shyness and not reading the signs due to lack of experience, all perfectly normal behaviour. About your situation with the musical composer, that's quite a natural feeling too. There is such as a thing as masculine and feminine energy, and you will associate things with either one of them subconsciously. Check out languages that feature masculine and feminine terminology. Those cultures have no problem with the definition of a man and a woman, or behaviour as being sexist. This is something the anglos struggle with to the point of trying to legislate against such thinking or speaking. I had something not like the M/F thing but similar from that Sam Smith song The Only One. I used to hear it on the radio and really dug it until I saw that Sam was a white english dude and not the soulful black crooner I had imagined in my mind. It removed my joy from the song because now I see it as inauthentic. It's not like this dude is not allowed to sing like a black person, it's that his singing is so far removed from his actual voice that I would consider it phony and not from the heart. I get a similar feeling from songs when you don't know the lyrics so you have your own version, and when you find out the real lyrics the song loses its shine in a way. "Art", What ever the semantics, he's shy, and he needs to overcome it basically.
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Post by 40oz on Jul 2, 2018 20:37:41 GMT -5
Women are so much easier for me to connect with than men are. Women will tell you everything they're feeling. I've never been able to keep a long lasting friendship with another guy.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2018 20:55:09 GMT -5
Women are so much easier for me to connect with than men are. Women will tell you everything they're feeling. I've never been able to keep a long lasting friendship with another guy. That's true There's nothing worse than a man that acts like a bitch. At least an attractive woman has something you would want! Joking aside, I do like talking to women friends better than I do to my male friends. Women can be a lot cooler friends then a male friend. Men act competitive and petty sometimes. A cool female friend will actually try to help out, and introduce you to other girls.
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Post by TOS on Jul 2, 2018 23:21:06 GMT -5
Normal. That's how humans are naturally wired. It would be abnormal if you didn't act like that. I think it's similar to how you act toward a boss during an interview. The person in question has something you want, so you instinctively try to present yourself in what you perceive to be the most attractive light.
Like if you know a chick is into metal music, you might make a point of wearing a Slayer shirt around her one day. If you notice she likes a sports team, you may talk about sport more often around her.
If you notice she curses a lot, you may speak more crass with her as opposed to a chick who is more soft spoken.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2018 3:18:15 GMT -5
sounds like you have a severe case of typical dude, memph
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2018 9:26:27 GMT -5
Normal. That's how humans are naturally wired. It would be abnormal if you didn't act like that. I think it's similar to how you act toward a boss during an interview. The person in question has something you want, so you instinctively try to present yourself in what you perceive to be the most attractive light. Like if you know a chick is into metal music, you might make a point of wearing a Slayer shirt around her one day. If you notice she likes a sports team, you may talk about sport more often around her. If you notice she curses a lot, you may speak more crass with her as opposed to a chick who is more soft spoken. I've been to a lot of metal shows, and I've dated girls into metal. It's so not worth it, they're wackos, and have horrendous personalities. I find that more "normal" looking girls are a lot nicer, friendlier, and better looking. Despite the fact that they might not like the same music.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2018 9:27:13 GMT -5
Usually they have some liberal asshole mentality.
Well... At least around here. Then again, most people do, and I hate them for it.
Most of the people nowadays around here are some cocksucker transplant hipster posing as a parody of metal heads or punk rockers. But they're a bunch of douchebag hipsters, that should be lobotomized.
You know, human cockroaches. That's how quickly they've spread and infested this area. Back in my day, people were actually cool and hardcore. They didn't get offended like a bunch of pussies.
I like and respect yuppies more than these so-called punks, and metal head hipster parodies. At least yuppies are genuine, and have proper sensibilities.
I rather dress nice, make money, and attract beautiful women that are actually sane.
Much better then these po-faced youths who dress like bums and act like bitches. They need a nice kick in the spinal cord.
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Post by agent6 on Jul 3, 2018 9:52:07 GMT -5
Normal. That's how humans are naturally wired. It would be abnormal if you didn't act like that. I think it's similar to how you act toward a boss during an interview. The person in question has something you want, so you instinctively try to present yourself in what you perceive to be the most attractive light. Like if you know a chick is into metal music, you might make a point of wearing a Slayer shirt around her one day. If you notice she likes a sports team, you may talk about sport more often around her. If you notice she curses a lot, you may speak more crass with her as opposed to a chick who is more soft spoken. I've been to a lot of metal shows, and I've dated girls into metal. It's so not worth it, they're wackos, and have horrendous personalities. I find that more "normal" looking girls are a lot nicer, friendlier, and better looking. Despite the fact that they might not like the same music. All I can say about this as a metalhead is: It depends. I for one can definitely see what you mean since I have firsthand experience. It looks like there's a lot of idiots at concerts nowadays, which is one of the main reasons I've stopped caring for concerts in general. Yeah, also true that many are assholes with shit personalities, which again, is the main reason I had ceased looking for metal friends. Many are insufferable and narrow-minded morons, I would definitely not waste my time with them. Sad indeed, because I've also had a few who were great, but it looks like they're increasingly harder to come by...
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Post by 40oz on Jul 3, 2018 11:22:39 GMT -5
Usually they have some liberal asshole mentality. Been listening to my old crust CD's and the liberal mentality all makes a lot of sense. Fuck religion in the state, fuck war, fuck white collar crimes, fuck mass media, fuck animal cruelty, fuck racism, fuck police brutality, fuck class systems, fuck our government, ..., It opened my eyes to a lot of bullshit that's been going on in the world that I had no idea about, and had me doing a lot of research to find out what kinda crazy shit has been going on behind the scenes that no one is talking about. Now that it's so mainstream and inundated in our daily lives, any fucking moron just spouts out their retarded temporary solutions to deeply systemic problems in our world and wants to start protests and revolutions to solve personal problems that have everything to do with them just being a fucking loser in life and nothing to do with the actual problems. Always demanding that the world should be carrying them around without having to take any responsibility for themselves. People making themselves unaccountable for their own suffering is why there's so much bullshit going around these days. I can't believe it's gotten as bad as it is. It's really depressing.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2018 11:35:31 GMT -5
Usually they have some liberal asshole mentality. Been listening to my old crust CD's and the liberal mentality all makes a lot of sense. Fuck religion in the state, fuck war, fuck white collar crimes, fuck mass media, fuck animal cruelty, fuck racism, fuck police brutality, fuck class systems, fuck our government, ..., It opened my eyes to a lot of bullshit that's been going on in the world that I had no idea about, and had me doing a lot of research to find out what kinda crazy shit has been going on behind the scenes that no one is talking about. Now that it's so mainstream and inundated in our daily lives, any fucking moron just spouts out their retarded temporary solutions to deeply systemic problems in our world and wants to start protests and revolutions to solve personal problems that have everything to do with them just being a fucking loser in life and nothing to do with the actual problems. Always demanding that the world should be carrying them around without having to take any responsibility for themselves. People making themselves unaccountable for their own suffering is why there's so much bullshit going around these days. I can't believe it's gotten as bad as it is. It's really depressing. The thing is, Liberals, by definition want the government to solve social issues, and have an aversion and are highly-critical to private interests. If anything, I would say Crusties are more like socially-libertine anarchists.
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Post by BattleKorbi on Jul 3, 2018 13:58:42 GMT -5
Quick question:
How the hell did politics get into this thread?
That's all for now. Thanks in advance.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2018 14:27:55 GMT -5
Exactly right? Doesn’t Kontra know that politics and girls don’t mix? Or politics and any sane thinking person in general?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2018 14:33:56 GMT -5
Exactly right? Doesn’t Kontra know that politics and girls don’t mix? Or politics and any sane thinking person in general? You'd be surprised actually. Women tend to bring up politics a lot. Which is a relatively recent phenomenon in casual dating, I've noticed. You can even see it on those stupid dating apps, where they proudly identify with their political beliefs. I wish they didn't. Because it is an annoying conversation to have, and I avoid it at all cost.
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Post by BIG DICK NIGGA on Jul 3, 2018 15:54:45 GMT -5
^ interesting stuff, tell me more. How firmly do girls generally stand by their beliefs? What I mean is: are your own beliefs likely to be a deal-breaker for her? Or vice versa, would you (personally) pass on a girl simply because she's liberal or whatever?
Appreciate your insight kind alphamale
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Post by TOS on Jul 3, 2018 17:18:42 GMT -5
I can attest to that. I have met women whose first question was "You're not a conservative, are you?" Obviously, we know how that went.
I've dated liberals before. They didn't end up working out, but it isn't an automatic dealbreaker for me. Have to look past the politcal label of someone and figure out what they're actually about.
I know that question wasn't directed at me, so sorry about the intrusion. But I had some insight and didn't think you'd mind multiple inputs.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2018 17:42:10 GMT -5
Virtue signals: Have to look past the politcal label of someone and figure out what they're actually about. Prefixed by labelling people: I've dated liberals before. Heh
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Post by TOS on Jul 3, 2018 18:14:29 GMT -5
I never said labels didn't exist. It's just best to try to look beyond the label and get to know people.
Heh
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2018 22:48:04 GMT -5
Democrats and liberals have made it a priority to convince women that they're at odds with men. Thus simply being a man that has conservative views, or just simply not being lock-step with liberal views is considered as an affront to women everywhere. This is part of the reason why society is fucked. They've vilified men who are not lick spittle and craven to abusive relationships (being forced to agree with everything, or else!). That is, unless the man is liberal and agrees, which is a separate thing. But the fact that you can't have a dissenting view is a sad note on society.
The only thing they've created are more men that are willing to lie to get in their pants! Then 86ing her for being an intolerable liberal.
Of course nobody wants this. But this is the hand that is dealt.
Peace and love, 69, not 86.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2018 0:59:03 GMT -5
Only dumb cunts believe that shit. Republicans and Democrats both will keep pushing anti-family unit laws and policies under the guise of equality and progression until we are all weakened in our societies for lack of anything of substance to live for. If you believe the rhetoric politicians of all sides push hard during their election cycles then I’ve got some magical beans I can sell you at a great price.
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