Do your looks match your personality?

My looks are what I want them to be (till the age allows it no longer), but the image I am projecting outwards is not who I really am, and deliberately so. Concealing one's true nature is a useful thing, especially since fighting against the already formed image of yourself in someone else's mind is hard, while using their incorrect assumptions against them is easier in comparison (once you figured what they are, of course). It should be noted that I am largely satisfied with how others perceive me, my looks seem to do this job right.

Your image is an asset you use just like your skills or money. In regards to "but what if I need others to understand me" one person may provide enough of that, and some things I never really shared with anyone at all and don't feel like I need to.

I think personalities are a little too complex to be defined correctly by an outfit. In my teens I wore a lot of punk band tshirts, ripped skinny jeans, vests with patches, and alternated between charged hair and a mohawk. My intent was to be "anti-establishment" but I think it was mostly perceived as "needs attention" (which was also probably also right, honestly. though I wouldn't tell anyone that)

Anyway, your personality is more what people perceive you to be than something you pick for yourself. For that reason it's mostly impossible to pick an outfit that most accurately matches your personality because most people you meet will have differing opinions of who you are as a person. You could maybe have someone you trust pick out your outfits for you or worse, act out the stereotype your outfit conveys.

If I dressed how my personality was described to me in another thread (a baby with a victim mindset) I'd probably be wearing a baby bonnet and have fake makeup bruises all over me.

I used to wear band shirts, motorcycle jackets, combat boots, and had long hair, a shaved head, and even a mohawk. Today, I dress with fitted clothes, with nice shirts, or polos. I also utilize more colors in my wardrobe now. My personality has always been the same, more or less.

The thing is even knowing someone's personality is not a good indicator of how they will act in a certain situation. People's actions are more driven by their goals, and the goals they set may be at odds with their nature as perceived by outside observer (even if that perception is spot on). In addition, goals of another person are rarely known unless that person willingly shares them.

Thus if someone's actions are a concern, and a source of possible danger to you, you'll have to try and narrow the options they are physically capable of taking and succeeding - you can forget all the things you think about their personality and the rest. On the other side, there are other people who may not have learned the above and so assume what you will do based on your personality, or - actually more likely - based on stereotypes involving your birth sex, social background and the like, which expectations you might be able to turn against them then (just don't play by the rules - and besides, isn't it easy to break rules when following them would actually bring your demise?).

In regards to "personality is more what people perceive you to be" - you can help shape a particular perception by giving socially relevant cues, this requires one to know the social meaning of said cues, of course. In regards to "personality and looks are linked", say, a predatory personality may wear a charming disguise, now you can say those are linked, indeed, in that the disguise fulfills the need for deception.

I'm 6'2 (so basically 188 cm?) I used to be very skinny up until my mid-20s. I'm not fat, but I wouldn't say I am skinny either. You know that old cliche that people say about losing weight gets harder when you are older? It is true! I just need to shave off some fat in my mid section , and I would be solid. But it is very hard nowadays.