If you are a Doomer, you are loved.

This is the Doomworld thread created by Ralphis. In his post he gives out the number for suicide prevention and in his second post mentions how he has been in contact with the family. 

Great words and sentiment 40, and I want to use this space to say I love you too, I love you miano, I love you Kontra, but I love dn the most don't be jealous guys 😜 

In all seriousness guys (sorry to any gals reading, this is a bloke thing) never be so insecure in your manhood to give a brother some warmth and good heartfelt words. Reach out if you think someone is doing it rough, it doesn't cost anything. Life is tough for everyone and we all a need a leg up at times. As an aside if you've ever had the pleasure of me calling you a cunt it's because you needed it and not to put you down. That's all. Cunts.

Is "you are loved" what depressed people want to hear? In the state they are in they probably can't really feel that love. They might think like "man, all these people love me and yet I still feel like shit? I'm the worst". I wonder if depressed people feel more comfortable when they hear cynical stuff and bad news because those align with their current world view better. When you tell them "you're awesome!" you get "no, I fucking suck" in return, but if you approach them less optimistically and don't act like a cheesy cartoon hero perhaps you might actually get a conversation going? Or something. I don't really know how their brains work.

Truthfully, I don't know.

What is going on in each person's head varies from person to person. The way depression is described in the medical community (and seems accurate to me) is that it's a condition that involves a high sensitivity to negative stimulation and a dull or muted sensitivity to positive stimulation. Some people have chronic depression as a bi-product of some other psychological condition, or sometimes as a result of a head injury. A Doomer Boards thread alone might not be enough to talk someone out of jumping off a bridge.

It's true, that this is a widely disputed psychological issue. I've seen some very convincing articles that attempt to persuade people out of overmedicating themselves because they are feeling sad. Often these prescriptions cause other harmful side effects to your brain activity, and studies have shown that depression can often be fought by fruitful conversations and social activity, and/or healthy diet and exercise.

I just know from experience that there were times where I felt like I was hated by the doom community, which is really painful considering that I love playing this game and talking to people about it. I really don't like that someone has to actually die to be reminded that this could happen to anyone from the community, no matter how much I may like or dislike them in the moment. No matter who you are, I have a deep amount of respect and appreciation for you just because you take the time to be here and make this community fun to be a part of.

Not a lot of people get attention unless they make amazing maps or music or programs, etc. Sometimes you see these people in a "grass is always greener on the other side" sort of way and it can be depressing when you feel like you're unimportant in the community. But that's not true. Every one of us is important for the sake of forming this awesome Doom community that we have been a part of for decades. Just being here with us makes you awesome.

I am now blushing in a manly manner

What can we do for this guy? www.doomworld.com/profile/10224-minigunner/?status=1731113&type=status

Memfy just reach out bro

@memfis Here's something I wrote for you a long time ago but it's still true memfy baby:



Memfis, otherwise known as kuchitsu when he's feeling naughty, has been making us smile and think on various forums since joining Doomworld in 2007. With his polite and playful manner and his curious nature his presence raises the mood on any forum thread or chat room he’s involved in. He is a prolific demoer, with 499 demos at the DoomEd Speed Demos Archive at the time of this writing. Through these demos you can see the calm mastery he displays as a Doom player. His fdas are a thing of beauty.



Although he's never blessed us with a megawad, he has released a vast number of wads for Doom as well as contributed to a variety of other projects, his name is on 76 entries currently in the idgames archive. The most notable of these is his six map Kuchitsu which won a Cacoward in 2013. But don’t mention that fact too much to him, it ranks amongst the least favourite of his own works. His maps tend to be cleanly textured, display an advanced understanding of monster and item placement, are tastefully designed, and above all else they're super fun to play. Even his reality maps.



For mine however the most valuable thing for the community that memfis, with a lowercase m when he's being all casual and chatty or Memfis with a capital M when it's time to get serious and business-like, does is give useful feedback on maps which are usually accompanied by his trademark fdas. You'll often find him around freshly released works, where the feedback at that stage of a wad's life is critical and helps boost a mapper's drive to better their work. He does all of this while staying incredibly humble and doesn't understand what all of the fuss is about, which is a big part of memfy's charm and keeps him being a highly sought out playtester, contributor and a pillar of society.





Random Memfis maps:



DOOM=DOOM





The Shores of Russia E2M3





New reality maps





Kukuku







As a special bonus, here is the map made by Skillsaw for the Secret Santa project where he mapped in the style of Memfis:



Nashville, Tennessee

Sorry to hear memfy! You’re doing the right thing by reaching out (even virtually) to people and being honest about what you need.

Speaking honestly, I’ll say that sorta-collab’ing with you on Coffin Curse was a real game-changer for me. I was pretty star-struck after years of lurking in the Doom community and seeing your name around. And that map is a good one too—singled out in several of the write ups I’ve seen for the set (most recently Not Jabba’s). Finishing up your wip also taught me a neat little trick for “lower-to-lowest floors” actions that I’ve probably used in most maps since. So I consider you a valuable teacher in the course of my own personal Doom mapping history!

Awesome

I have nothing to say, except for "I have nothing to say".

Memfis is a name in the Doom community that is recognized, when somebody plays a map by Memfis they are getting good fucking maps made by a refined veteran of Doom, Memfis knows what players want, Memfis knows what you like because Memfis made what you like.

Less a mapper, more an artisan.