Have you ever met a childhood bully as an adult?
Jan 5, 2023 13:45:37 GMT -5
Post by 40oz on Jan 5, 2023 13:45:37 GMT -5
One of my childhood best friends from the neighborhood abandoned facebook without deleting his account a long time ago (facebook is a trash boomer ass website these days anyway, i dont blame him.), and I accidentally stumbled on his name while looking for another friend. I curiously checked on his profile and looked up his siblings.
My neighborhood friend had the meanest older brother of all time. He was such a douche. Whenever he came home from school we had to leave our toys behind in the backyard and run to my house through the neighbors backyards. You don't really think about how fucked up things are when you're that young. Some people are just mean and they are who they are. If you don't like em, you gotta avoid them.
I remember my friend had parents that weren't too terribly strict, but their punishments for misbehaving were pretty severe, and these kids talked back a lot. They got spanked when they lied or stayed out too late, and on some occasions the dad would bring out the belt. I remember my friend got 'grounded' pretty often, (which means he couldn't leave the house to play with friends for a few days) and often banned from tv or video games or desserts for, sometimes, entire months, and I helped him pull out weeds from the garden sometimes when he was stuck doing chores.
He had two older brothers, and the three would fight A LOT. They were very territorial. Don't EVER go in his brothers room or touch his stuff. My friend, who was the youngest of the three, got the beatings of a lifetime. And his brothers would sometimes call me names and hit me sometimes too just for being his friend. The middle brother was the worst. There were some rare times that he was cool, and for some reason I remember those moments the fondest, but he was definitely an asshole 95% of the time. He called people f****ts pretty often, and the first time I heard that word was from him. I didn't know what it meant, just thought it meant weak, feminine, loser, etc. Shortly after I lost contact with my friend and his family i think i overheard an adult (I think it was my mom but my memory is fuzzy) that the brother is a closeted homosexual and was experimenting in high school and college. I never found any confirmation of that, but it is weird for my mom to spread unfounded rumors like that. I've been wanting to ask her if I heard that from her but its so random and I don't wanna accuse her of it, so it's kinda lost to the sands of time.
I was too young to realize how crazy it was. I had older brothers and they were assholes sometimes, but i don't think they were nearly this cruel. As an adult, it's really weird to think about little kids beating each other up, and also getting beaten and punished by their parents like that and that no one was really stopping it. It was just seen as a different parenting style.
The middle brother had a facebook profile but he stopped using it since 2014. His face looks different than I remember him as a child, and he has a bushy beard in some wedding photos that were taken two years ago. I'm not sure I would have recognized him if I had seen him in real life recently, or if he would have recognized me. I haven't gotten to meet him but I wonder if he's doing better now, and maybe he's super cool. Or he's just as much of a maladjusted adult now as he was when he was a kid.
My neighborhood friend had the meanest older brother of all time. He was such a douche. Whenever he came home from school we had to leave our toys behind in the backyard and run to my house through the neighbors backyards. You don't really think about how fucked up things are when you're that young. Some people are just mean and they are who they are. If you don't like em, you gotta avoid them.
I remember my friend had parents that weren't too terribly strict, but their punishments for misbehaving were pretty severe, and these kids talked back a lot. They got spanked when they lied or stayed out too late, and on some occasions the dad would bring out the belt. I remember my friend got 'grounded' pretty often, (which means he couldn't leave the house to play with friends for a few days) and often banned from tv or video games or desserts for, sometimes, entire months, and I helped him pull out weeds from the garden sometimes when he was stuck doing chores.
He had two older brothers, and the three would fight A LOT. They were very territorial. Don't EVER go in his brothers room or touch his stuff. My friend, who was the youngest of the three, got the beatings of a lifetime. And his brothers would sometimes call me names and hit me sometimes too just for being his friend. The middle brother was the worst. There were some rare times that he was cool, and for some reason I remember those moments the fondest, but he was definitely an asshole 95% of the time. He called people f****ts pretty often, and the first time I heard that word was from him. I didn't know what it meant, just thought it meant weak, feminine, loser, etc. Shortly after I lost contact with my friend and his family i think i overheard an adult (I think it was my mom but my memory is fuzzy) that the brother is a closeted homosexual and was experimenting in high school and college. I never found any confirmation of that, but it is weird for my mom to spread unfounded rumors like that. I've been wanting to ask her if I heard that from her but its so random and I don't wanna accuse her of it, so it's kinda lost to the sands of time.
I was too young to realize how crazy it was. I had older brothers and they were assholes sometimes, but i don't think they were nearly this cruel. As an adult, it's really weird to think about little kids beating each other up, and also getting beaten and punished by their parents like that and that no one was really stopping it. It was just seen as a different parenting style.
The middle brother had a facebook profile but he stopped using it since 2014. His face looks different than I remember him as a child, and he has a bushy beard in some wedding photos that were taken two years ago. I'm not sure I would have recognized him if I had seen him in real life recently, or if he would have recognized me. I haven't gotten to meet him but I wonder if he's doing better now, and maybe he's super cool. Or he's just as much of a maladjusted adult now as he was when he was a kid.
