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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2020 9:40:54 GMT -5
The subject should read "Why some people prefer text messages over answering the phone", there is a limit on subject field's length.
Lately I started encountering people who would not pickup the phone whatsoever, and can be talked to only through contacting their IM or SMS. That is, even if the phone has to be used, it must be text messaging. Why? Can someone explain? For me the media of written words is much more stressing, especially when its instant.
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Post by Justince on Jul 3, 2020 10:13:26 GMT -5
Because most people are cowards. Again I find this to be a generational issue. People my age (48+) have no problem on the phone. Using your voice means putting yourself out there, it means putting your initiative and beliefs behind what you say. Text doesn't convey power or assertiveness, two things most pathetic millennials have none of so of course they prefer it. It also can be used to weasel out of tough situations using vapid internet witticisms only they would get. Imagine having to back up 'check your privilege' on the phone during a conversation instead of turning your screen off and going to back playing Pokemon.
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Post by Lobo on Jul 3, 2020 10:30:54 GMT -5
It's a buffer. Easier to tell someone to piss off over text than actually speak to them. And easier to ignore them if they want to know why or want to debate the point.
So what the old guy said basically 😉
Just messing with you Justince: I'm over 40 myself😂
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2020 10:51:39 GMT -5
Text also doesn't convey emotions properly, which tends to escalates misunderstanding. You read your own Shadow into it. I perceive people in a much more negative way when I engage them via written text. Even the phone partly presents this problem (you don't know their context often). I often find it possible to actually resolve shit that got broken in written text if you able to approach person in real life. COVID-19 lockdown actually costed me a girlfriend (we only began dating before a lockdown), and that happened precisely because of written text. The lockdown also took my outdoor activity away (I even got close to be fined for violating the strict "do not go to the street" rule, so I ceased trying to go out even when everybody else started doing inspite of the rules, which they were able to do because cops stopped enforcing it as strictly as it is written ), which put me in severe depression. So hooray, we were planning to go on a date, but the lockdown took both it and the entire relationship away. Good thing I did a map for DBP23 then. Big thanks for 40oz for overhauling my map, that was one thing I actually achieved that month, even if I needed a lot of help in doing so.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2020 11:15:49 GMT -5
I prefer talking in-person / calls so that I won't have to wait some random amount of time before I get a response once the talks have been initiated as it is very likely I have their attention by then. Fast responses to e-mails and such are great when it happens, though it all is still a cause for some anxiety.
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Post by BIG DICK NIGGA on Jul 3, 2020 11:22:01 GMT -5
As a proud zoomer, I prefer text a lot. I get nervous when talking on the phone, because both my hearing and my phone's speaker are shit and I constantly ask "ONCE AGAIN PLEASE" "HUH" etc. Also I still have a pretty strong accent in the local language where I live, so being able to communicate in text makes me a lot easier to understand
Other than that I actually don't mind talking on the phone or on the computer via webcam.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2020 12:47:09 GMT -5
I prefer text because 90% of my job is over the phone and I'd sooner die than use it even more.
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Post by printz on Jul 3, 2020 14:21:59 GMT -5
Here are the advantages of texting: - It's silent. No one will hear what I say.
- It's clear. No need to concentrate to hear someone and ask them to repeat.
- It's text and it gets logged forever, so I can check it later. This is in contrast with phoning, which normally does NOT get recorded. I think that in Europe I actually need to jump through hoops to have audio conversation recording, because of GDPR. And even if I succeed, listening later to a real-length audio recording is too time consuming.
I prefer to phone people when they need to answer immediately. There's zero guarantee that otherwise, through a text message (or posted voice recording), someone would respond in due time.
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Post by BigBoy91 on Jul 3, 2020 14:58:18 GMT -5
I live in the boonies, my service sucks, and most of my conversations are just both of us going "WHAT?" over and over. Got in the habit of texting because it's easier that way. I like talking on the phone with very few people. I'll be 29 in August, by the way.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2020 16:19:43 GMT -5
Messages are better because I get to answer when it's convenient for me. The notion that you can call me at any time and I'm expected to drop everything and focus on your needs is plain ridiculous. Phones are like the most invasive technology ever created.
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Post by joe-ilya on Jul 3, 2020 17:13:51 GMT -5
During work-time or night I prefer to get messages. Any other time; a phone call is prefered. During work-time I can't always answer calls, and night is sleep-time.
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Post by marriagecounselor on Jul 8, 2020 20:26:32 GMT -5
i refuse to do text messages with anyone and never answer them or read them. if there is something important that needs to be conveyed, it won't be in a text message.
the very idea of text messages encourages passive aggressive attitudes and seriously egotistic behavior. it's just bad news all around. people seriously lose their minds and wring themselves into emotional knots over text messages.
i only talk to people face to face or by email at worst. text messaging is the destruction of socializing.
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Post by BIG DICK NIGGA on Jul 9, 2020 11:28:17 GMT -5
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