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Post by Deleted on Nov 10, 2019 19:23:20 GMT -5
Over the years I've told myself many promising things like:
- when I finish school, life will become good
- when I learn that language, life will become good
- when I find friends, life will become good
- when I get money, life will become good
But no matter what I accomplish, there is no sense of "this is it": I still feel empty and dissatisfied with my life. When will it become good, when will it begin?
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Post by BIG DICK NIGGA on Nov 10, 2019 19:34:03 GMT -5
What makes it not good? Figure it out then work on it.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2019 3:26:40 GMT -5
But that won't make it good. No matter what I achieve, satisfaction with life doesn't come. I keep inventing new goals to give myself some hope, like "I just need one more thing and then...", but with every new accomplishment it only becomes more clear that I'm empty inside and unable to be happy about my life.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2019 3:41:45 GMT -5
Honestly, it just sort of doesn't. Like, technically for me life has never been better, but I'm still prone to getting down in the doldrums.
It's a state of mind thing, I imagine. Some people are basically happy, other people aren't. I've self-destructed and reinvented a few times over the last 10 years or so, sometimes not for the better, but life has been on an upward trajectory based on what I'm told people want. You know: more money, a girlfriend, our own place...
The thing for me, at least, is that I've always got one eye on where I'm going. That's usually very uncertain. I don't believe there's a job for life, I don't think there's any security in rented accommodation and I can't guarantee I won't implode again. I've got no security blanket in case that happens, and I'm 30 later this week. Am I ever going to feel relaxed and secure? In this economic climate, probably not. Even if I did, there's always the looking spectre of boredom and stagnation.
It ain't cheerful, but you're not alone.
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Post by joe-ilya on Nov 11, 2019 7:01:22 GMT -5
Did you actually accomplish all these things you're saying? If so, you're probably just not doing something with those things, like I dunno, travel to Japan with some pals and do lots of drugs.
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Post by dn on Nov 11, 2019 10:20:32 GMT -5
well if your achievements aren't satisfying you then you are achieving the wrong thing.
Figure out what *you* want - this is different from what society says you want, or your girlfriend / parents say you want, or what the fucking media says you want. It won't get the black dog that Phobus describes entirely off your back, but there is a certain grim satisfaction to be gained from kicking that fucker in the teeth every now and again.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2019 10:47:55 GMT -5
When does life become good?
When it ends |
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Post by nxGangrel on Nov 11, 2019 11:21:01 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure the answer is never. Life doesn't necessarily get "better" over time, I think you just become content at some point, but that depends on what you do with your life and what you accomplish, and what you want to do with it. Honestly for me life has just been a series of disappointments for almost two decades, it's gotten a little better.. but it's also gotten a little worse. But I've learned to live with it.
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Post by BIG DICK NIGGA on Nov 11, 2019 17:20:01 GMT -5
No matter what I achieve, satisfaction with life doesn't come Don't laugh rn but you might be suffering with malnutrition. Like yeah that's a thing. get more vitamin d and iron, go out in the sun and eat pumpkin seeds. that's assuming you're really doing something with your life and aren't in fact being miserable 24/7 while lying to strangers on coomer boards. other than that actually give nofap a try  also fuck the internet this shit is depressing |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 12, 2019 6:07:16 GMT -5
Yea, I'm drinking like 5-10 drops of vitamin d per day. Going out in the sun is unfortunately not an option on most days in this time of year... Haven't heard the pumpkin seeds thing yet, sounds interesting.
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Post by thundercunt on Nov 12, 2019 12:40:31 GMT -5
if your vitamin D levels are are already abysmally low simply going out in the sun won't help, you'll need that mega dose pills. do a blood test, it also may detect unusual thyroid hormones and other depression-inducing abnormalities
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Post by GRUG on Nov 14, 2019 18:29:35 GMT -5
But no matter what I accomplish, there is no sense of "this is it": I still feel empty and dissatisfied with my life. When will it become good, when will it begin? Here's my best advise to you Memfis: In life, you're going to have to accept that you will have more bad days than good days. And depression may never fully ever go away. But continue making the best out of life from whatever the hand you are dealt with. Do more things that you enjoy, cut out bad habits, and stop overly worrying about burdensome things. I don't think there will ever be a clear-cut point of "if I reach this, I will find my endless happiness in life." I think you need to change your mindset a bit. Also, this is probably an unpopular opinion but I'm just going to say it anyway: Finding spirituality or a philosophy (whether it be from religion or spiritual connection towards your cultural heritage) helps boost morale and can fill the void in your life. |
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Post by TOS on Nov 14, 2019 22:14:38 GMT -5
When you choose to appreciate the opportunity to live.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2019 4:18:41 GMT -5
And how do I do that exactly? Been trying for years, can't say I had tremendous success. When I enter an elevator there is a bunch of buttons to choose from, but it seems like there is no button for appreciating life. How do I choose it?
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Post by joe-ilya on Nov 15, 2019 9:05:38 GMT -5
You really want random people to tell you how to live your life?
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Post by BIG DICK NIGGA on Nov 15, 2019 16:34:40 GMT -5
ou really want random people to tell you how to live your life? Bruh he really can't seem to figure it out for himself, that's ok @memfis let's see, what's your #1 dream in life that doesn't involve reaching other goals (so "feeling satisfied with my life" doesn't count?)???? |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2019 19:57:23 GMT -5
Well, it would be nice to stop being an envious distrustful uncaring asshole who hates himself and feels like everyone is his enemy, but it seems to be an insurmountable task. The more I try to learn about myself so that I could change for the better, the more unbearable existence gets.
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Post by BIG DICK NIGGA on Nov 16, 2019 9:19:50 GMT -5
Haven't got any of those vibes from you in 3 years I've been in the community lol. You seem super chill. I'd even go as far as to say your logic is the most similar to mine of all people I've ever met
Dude you have no reason to hate yourself. You haven't done any harm to others, you speak fucking Japanese, you are respected at least in an online community. You got a job too right? That's all pretty cool.
If you still live with your parents, move out, preferably with someone you know. Roommates are cool. Parents are not.
Another thing that helps is to hide your powerlevel as they say. So don't talk about nerdy things like anime titties to people whom you don't know well and who don't have your same interests. Takes a while to learn this properly but it's cool when you do.
Get off the Internet, do a lil detoxication, works best when you're on vacation of some sort.
Stop jerking off!!!!!!
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Post by TOS on Nov 16, 2019 22:24:20 GMT -5
Pick a small goal and accomplish it every day for a week. Give a random person a small compliment every day.
"Hey, cool shirt."
"I like your car."
Shit like that. Small kindnesses like that are ttpically returned in some fashion, and that will feel good.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 19, 2019 10:54:46 GMT -5
Life can become good at any moment. I somewhat believe you have to will it to happen, spiritually. You have to believe that good will come to you, even by random chance. While trying to make the smartest choices for what is in front of you.
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Post by skdursh on Dec 9, 2019 17:10:38 GMT -5
For me I find that so long as I keep myself busy I can stave off the existential dread. If I sit still too long though, ohhh boy you better have some happy pills in your pocket. Money and a good woman helps too.
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Post by optimus on Dec 10, 2019 15:33:51 GMT -5
I've understood that even when sometimes good things happen in your life, if there is a feeling of impending doom, or some chronic anxieties, that are just there because your brain. Then you are still unable to fully enjoy and even good things feel meh. So, it's not even that overcoming checkpoints in life will necessary give someone peace. I realized I score very high in neuroticism and that's just my brain but of course this makes some days feel too anxious for nothing, I am older now however and kinda got used to it and accept it as reality. I know this doesn't help, but that's all I can think.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2019 6:58:33 GMT -5
You either sit wallowing in misery or you do something about it, I did something about it. I said fuck it, the world's suicide counter don't need another statistic and I'm wasting my time being some turbo nerd incel loser and feeling bad about it, time I just "man" the fuck up and start acting like an adult who has responsibilities.
I might not be vidya garming as much as I want but actually dealing with my issues head on and improving myself by burying those demons helped me pave the way for my future, it might not be bliss but it is tolerable, I can do things now I never expected to, I have done things I never would have back then and I regret so little.
That helps too, whilst you can and totally should regret some things, don't let them weigh you down, take the fuckin L and add it to the alphabet soup because that shit won't matter later, I regretted so much, I missed out on so much but now I know not to miss out again.
Take opportunities by the balls and rag them all over, don't back down (unless someone asks you too because that be rape n shit yall).
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