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Post by Deleted on Jul 10, 2018 14:26:53 GMT -5
How do you feel when others fail to reciprocate the kindness you have shown them? Do you feel as though they owe you the same level of kindness for your actions? Or perhaps, you scale back on kindness towards them, and hold yourself responsible for being too nice? Do you ignore them the next time you see them? Or do you excuse them for their lack of basic human decency, and chalk it up to them having a bad day? However, why should this kind of behavior be tolerated? Even when I'm having a bad day, I don't think it would be appropriate to do this to people that have not wronged you. I think the lack of manners in society is making the world a shitter place to live.
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Post by agent6 on Jul 10, 2018 14:42:08 GMT -5
If they fail to reciprocate the kindness then it's usually a mixture of downscaling it and holding myself responsible for being too nice.
The latter is very important to me since I have helped "people" in the past who shortly afterwards proved to be nothing more than worms who deserve to be trampled under the foot while glaring at them with disgust. I promised myself I'll never be kind (or helpful, for that matter) to such individuals again, for the simple reason that there's way too many people who would abuse it or worse, make you look like a fool for it later on.
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Post by Justince on Jul 10, 2018 15:34:28 GMT -5
It doesn't come up often, but expecting anything from people just because you were nice to them is ultimately manipulative. People aren't banks where you put in kindness and expect a return. Should you not be kind to anyone? No of course not, it is human decency and by doing so should make you feel better about yourself, which is really all you can rely on. But again, holding people (especially strangers) to your personal standards of behavior is futile and will only end up in disappointment. If it's an alleged close friends who don't reciprocate kindness, you should ask yourself how your life is bettered by that relationship and perhaps it should end.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 10, 2018 15:45:44 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jul 10, 2018 15:49:11 GMT -5
I never expect reciprocation, they are not obliged to show it, the reciprocation should never really be a concern to be honest as performing the act of kindness itself is the right thing to do and should be it's own reward in my eyes.
Then again I'm a fucking pushover.
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Post by Phml on Jul 15, 2018 10:05:09 GMT -5
Justince has it right. Be lavish with your kindness and don't expect anything back. Even if people don't reciprocate, for many of them it will brighten their day.
It's more of an issue if you're kind to a specific person, consistently, and they take you for granted. Got to cut back on these types of relationships.
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Post by BIG DICK NIGGA on Jul 15, 2018 14:50:43 GMT -5
I think it's kind of a karma thing -- if you're nice to one person and that person doesn't reciproc8 your kindness, another person certainly will. It's something that should be perceived on a greater scale IMO.
I'm kinda stupid though so IDK ayy lmao
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